15 Tips To Keeping Things Spicy In The Bedroom

From time to time; everyone needs to spice things up in the bedroom. There's no shame in that. Hitting a sexual lull in a partnership, or relationship isn't unique -- it something most pairs will face at some stage.

Statiscally speaking, sex should be way more enjoyable after 15 years with the same person -- but whether it's hormonal, stress-related, or you've just been with the same person for so long that no amount of pillow talk will make you want to get intimate.

Me personally, I enjoy sporadic intimacy and adventurous intercourse. I thought I'd share 15 tips of mine & include advice that's been shared with me for keeping things fresh & spicy behind closed doors.

15 Tips To Keeping Things Spicy:

1. Get In The Zone - Get in character. Never underestimate the power of alternate egos. "It drives me crazy when my partner turns into this dominant person; controlling, firm, and demanding -- I enjoy a partner who takes the dominant role in BDSM." --Kimmy, 20

2. Talk Dirty - Whether they openly admit it or not, the majority or women and men love dirty talk. You don't have to save the naughty talk for the bedroom. If you're on a date, whisper & tell your partner how badly you want them. Let go of your inhibitions. Don't underestimate the power of "sexting."

3. Use Your Mouth - Research has confirmed that women require a variety of sexual stimulation to reach orgasm, like oral sex. Use your hands. Or maybe even put your feet in the mix. Standard penetrative sex doesn't deliver sexual satisfaction to all parties.

4. Set The Scene - Play soft music. Gentle or R&B. Light some candles. Create a romantic space. Give your partner a variety of pleasurable experiences.

5. Get Handsy - Think about picking up a small sex toy like a vibrator. Some restraints, dildos, and a crop if you like to spank. There are tons of strokers, massagers, rings, and other accessories for men. If you're really in the mood to mix things up there are toys designed for couples to use during sex. Shop around.

6. Take Turns Initiating - One partner will always feel like they often have to initiate sex with their partner. Take turns seducing each other; making them feel desired and attractive. Initiating sex sends a message that you want them.

7. Actively Participate - This just means to f**ck back, meeting each other's thrusts, grinding your hips, and flexing your pubic bone muscles. Use your hands to squeeze or pull your partners body closer to yours. Use your lips to explore more of their body.

8. Play Sexy Games - Put together a sex bucket list. This will encourage experimentation. Experiment with all kinds of tasty treats. Get turned on & you get a yummy snack too! Play a sexy dime game -- simply roll the dice designed for sexual activities, and they will tell you what to do, how to do it, and for how long. Sexy truth or dare really spices things up.

9. Tell Each Other Your Fantasies - Roleplay is always an option. Almost everyone has sexual fantasies. Discuss your fantasies with your partner and act on them -- Discover ways to share your fantasies. You have to tell each other what you want in order to get it.

10. Switch Up And Try New Positions - Changing positions isn't just for intercourse -- different positions for oral sex are game-changers as well. Each position has a different depth and speed of penetration and hit different erogenous zones. Give upside down oral a try. Have sex in a chair. Or try the wheelbarrow.

11. Add More Foreplay - Make foreplay an all-day event. Spend time focusing on foreplay, making each other horny before having sex. Tease each other throughout the entire day for extra heat. Caress and compliment each other's bodies.

12. Look Good, Feel Sexy - Look good and start wearing lingerie. Start working out if you have to. Pamper yourself with fragrant scrubs, body oil, and get a new haircut. Do your makeup and accessorize. Feel sexy and you'll look sexy.

13. Watch Porn - Sometimes, watching porn together can help both of you get into the mood and have a better time making love.

14. Make A Home Video - Get in the mood, character, and place to perform on camera. Make a video together while having sex. This is your time to show out and create a memorable moment with your partner. Watching yourselves having sex in a video whilst having sex at the same time can be a huge turn on. Delete the video after the act if having a sex tape freaks you out, or store it in a safe place.

15. Read Erotica Together - Create fantasies and imagine them together. Find novels that you and your partner can enjoy together.

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This handy guide will show you how to spice things up in the bedroom. I hope you enjoyed reading and took a few or all tips from this article to help you better perform and enjoy sex. It's great for your relationship, the better sex is, the more often you'll likely want it.